Grief and Loss

You experienced a loss. Why does it feel like something is wrong with you?

You live in a world where you knew you would encounter loss, but you expected it to feel like something else. Maybe a linear sadness or at least something with a trajectory that approximates the way you have always led your life, that is, something leading to eventually better.

When you are unhappy in life, you identify a problem and solve it. This process is fantastic; however, the catch is that you can’t problem solve your way out of grief.

Grief can feel like a crisis.

But you don’t “do” crisis. You consistently avoid it through good judgment and careful planning.

So, you’re not only alarmed and frustrated – this grief makes you feel like a massive failure.

In Oscar Wilde’s The Importance of Being Earnest, Lady Bracknell’s callously absurd comment actually reveals a bit of truth about the lack of control you may be feeling: “To lose one’s parent may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose two looks like carelessness.”

How did you get here? And, more importantly, how do you move on?

Your family and friends seem (to be candid) unhelpful.

You know they care, and you know that they try. You probably even know that they don’t know what to say. Maybe you empathize with them.

But you need to talk about this, and the isolation has started to make you feel like the outlier. You have a growing sense that everyone else somehow gets it right.

There is a certain variety of grief in which nobody says anything at all. Ambiguous – or disenfranchised – grief elicits feelings of discomfort, anger, and ambiguity. Perhaps you’ve lost an estranged child, an abusive parent, a former spouse, or a partner in an extramarital affair or otherwise unrecognized relationship.

How can they support you if your family and community can’t – or won’t – even talk about the loss?

In the very moment when your normally stalwart reason fails, you feel as though you must face it all alone. But you don’t.

But there is someone who does.

I get it. And I can help.

Everyone processes grief and loss in their own way. Together, we’ll decide the best pathway through it for you.

Do you want to delve more deeply? To examine further the complexities of your relationships and how they impact bereavement?

Or will it serve you better to move on with your life, entirely unencumbered by the past and the loss?

There’s no single “right” answer – the choice is yours.

Regardless of your decision, I’ll help you move forward without judgment or unnecessary dredging of old traumas.

Conquer the chaos, find closure, and heal.

Reach out today.

As we walk this journey together, let me help you regain control of your life and construct a future in which you can thrive.