Individual Therapy

thPragmatism. Proactivity. Problem-solving.

In the past, these strategies have worked spectacularly.  You are continuing to do what has worked in the past, but now, it seems to have no impact. 

People usually come to you with their problems. You’re the one who creates solid plans and good solutions. But secretly, it feels like your own life is unraveling.

Ambivalence, apprehension, and angst. 

You want things to be different, or strongly suspect that you want things to be different, or, maybe, you aren’t sure at all what you want. Perhaps you can’t even identify the “things” that need to shift. You’re not sure whether you should change, or want to change. There’s a good chance you aren’t even certain what it is in your life that needs to change. 

Caught in a repeating dynamic, the more you resolve to change, the more you seem to stay the same – and so do your circumstances and the world around you.

And at the core? Shame. So much shame.

Maybe you’ve stopped admitting that anything in your life is amiss.

It is possible that you’ve started to feel self-conscious about your efforts at change. Each failure seems to validate the idea that life will always be problematic – and you must always keep those problems a secret.

And self-imposed isolation.

For a long time, it might have felt important to hide your unhappiness. Perhaps your unhappiness seemed to set you apart, and if others could see it, that unhappiness might very well isolate you even further. 

Maybe you even felt that if you could avoid seeing it, it would cease to exist.

The thought of talking about the issue might evoke fear and uncertainty.

What if it doesn’t work?

What if you can never break the cycle?

It might feel very scary to examine these questions; asking the question evokes the possible answer that this will always be your life.

But the denial is so utterly exhausting. There must be something better.

The theatre of denial requires so much energy.

Imagine if you could spend that energy on strategies and actions that moved you towards the life you want. It might feel like a new and uncertain trajectory. Or it might feel a lot like the life you used to have, before things went awry. 

The good news is that you’re already in that process.

Contemplating the possibility of changing a problem is the opposite of denying the existence of that problem. Your challenges are your own and their configurations are unique, but so are your strengths.

You need a plan as unique as you are.

Together, we’ll create a treatment plan customized specifically for you. 

My orientation is psychodynamic. I often use Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Trauma-informed CBT, Family System Therapy, elements of Dialectal Behavioral Therapy, and addiction/recovery work.

Most importantly, I’m nonjudgmental. Our lives are a mosaic of our history (in its entirety).

Imagine what life would be like without shame and perfectionism.

Time to take charge, stop the spiral – and start living.

Reach out to me at (415) 858-9454 for your complimentary 20-minute phone conversation.

Together, we can face the root of all these emotions and set you on a positive forward path.

So, you can rediscover your joy and get on with living your best life.